Ok, figured this out on my own.
1. There is a reset button, the docs that I read saying there was not for the WR44R lied, its there off the middle under the unit,
2. If you are plugged into Eth0, resetting will not cause pings to start coming back because.......
Eth0 is set to get an IP from a DHCP server, Eth1 is set to 192.168.1.1.
So twice, the documentation was wrong.
Anyhow, I'm up and running.