OK. I have been pretty unhappy with Digi's assistance on this, having talked to a representative twice and gotten no part number.
However, I have finally located what I think is the correct part number for the SMD header that is on the XBIB. Digi's PN is 76002056. Digikey's PN (at this writing) is 602-1644-ND.
Mind you, I do not consider this a solution for anything but development boards and only that because I can't find anything else. The 76002056 part(s) is too expensive, takes up a huge amount of PCB real estate, requires custom milling of the PCB to accommodate it, and prohibits any traces under it on either side of the PCB.